Family Forum / Marriage / Divorce / July 2007

I am in my late 30's with 2 beautiful boys, both under 6.  My relationship
with my wife is virtually non-existent, at least in the sense of being in
love.
I love her because she is the mother of my children and we have shared time

I've decided to make more liberal use of my killfile in an
effort to filter the pollution... I'm going to killlfile any poster
who's post orginates from some other group (except our
sister group ASM).  But for now, I'll let the sex-ads alone.

I am new to this divorce thing, my first, after 12 years. How do you
get "back out there?" And what do you do with your free time in the
meantime? I am female, 40ish, and I am left with too much free time
now, amazing how "friends" disappear when problems come up.

Minor rant here. I can't call bro or anyone else, so I'll rant here,
since it has no lasting ripple effects in the real-world around me.
Assuming nobody I know finds out about Saul!
Anyway...

We are not divorced yet, in fact we are just starting counseling. But
I was wondering what does a separation entail? Do you need legal
counsel for it? Or is it more of a break without any legal
ramifications?

Its been 2 to 3 weeks since I caught him but I could tell before the
little signs of suspicion.  I hate the fact that I truely trusted him
and he would never do that.  And it hurts because he was the one I was
going to grow old with.  10 years of my life and 3 kids.

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I am Mr. Shamsudeen, 29 years, single, from bangalore (India).
I have lost some hairs in my fore head (2 inches from my fore head),
so I look little ugly. I loved a girl she rejected me because of my
hair style.

whats up?

Not a huge suprise, but not exactly expected either.
Not sure what I hate more, the ending of the marriage, or the idea
that I have to pack and move and change stuff.
Am tired & have a headache.

Anyone going thru a divorce that wants to end it all? Please dont tell
me about the ones left behind.I am crumbling under the weight of it
all. just cant focus on anything. go to sleep at night and hope I
never wake up-every night. I know i cant be alone

Fresh (sort of) off of the presses. What do you think?
http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/wayoflife/07/23/alimony.partnerships.ap/index.html
"LOS
"LOS ANGELES, California (AP) -- A judge has ordered a man to continue

You know, I've found there aren't too many problems in this world that
can't be solved with five long, deep breaths.
- Saul

Cheat Cheat Cheat
Now listen to this.........I want you to tell me straight from the men
who cheat and women they cheated on and the women men cheated
with......My husband and I filed divorce and he kept seeing me,

http://www.nypost.com/seven/07252007/gossip/pagesix/needs_a_date_pagesix_.htm
NEEDS A DATE
July 25, 2007 -- TODAY'S men are neither intelligent nor witty enough
for Lauren Bacall. "They don't exist anymore. Why? Don't ask me. I