Family Forum / Parenting / Step Parents / May 2004

I have an 18 year old daughter who has just recently graduated from high
school.  She has great grades and hasn't ever gotten in trouble.  We have
been disagreeing on her 12:30 curfew lately. She doesn't believe that she
should have one any longer. Her friends no longer have a ...

Hello, I am a 40 yr old stepfather with no kids my wife has 2 girls 23
and 20 we have been together since 1994 and i find myself feeling like
all i am is a paycheck i don't feel any type of affection from her girls
like i used to and my wife and i don't hardly talk or spend time

Ok the other thread was getting too long and difficlut to read. It
also was way off topic at this point.
This thread should reflect a little better what we were discussing.
Now back to it..............

Sure, I'm a crabby old guy but this time I'm pretty sure I'm right.
My phone rings.
Me:  Hello
Boyfriend:  Hello.  Is Linda there?

Hi, everyone.  LTNS.
I've spent a good portion of the day getting a new internet access set
up.  Chewy's gone back to programming, so I've got to be online so I
can communicate with him during the day.  :-)  Now I just have to find

So we got the through the step daughter's wedding last weekend.   The cost
was devastating.  The debt will take forever to work off.   Maxxed out two
credit cards, personal high interest loan, etc.   The happy couple was
already living together when they got married and bought a 35 ...

So I'm starting a new thread, hopefully to clear away some of the debris
from the old one.
What I'm starting to wonder, I guess, is how much you know about the
dynamics of step.  You had a bad experience with your own, from what you've

This post has been inspired by Geri and some other posts ive recieved.
Im starting to get pretty depressed about my situation and being a
steppareent. After posting background info and issues ive been dealing
with, ive gotten alot of replies about how complicated things really

It was you with the voting machines, right?  
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jane

...but I haven't. Still drives me crazy. I still don't understand it
at all. (Okay, I understand the 'why', I just think it's dysfunctional
as hell.)
Okay, remember my last bout of hysteria? With SS wanting to come to

Just recently, I tried to open communication with his ex, only to be hit
below the belt. I simply wanted her to know that my door was always open
when it comes to "kid issues" concerning my to be "step daughter".
This is what I was blind sighted with:

Very nice time here.  BinB, flowers, spa pedicure certificate, card,
strawberries dipped in chocolate.  
One thing: in the afternoon SIL, DD, and I went to a casino. Long story - we
were looking for a nursery. That was new and different.  We ate lunch and

Hey all,,,
Just wondering about something. My GF and I are taking this approach
to our relationship. Were first working on our relationship and then
she's going to slowly bring me into the picture with her family, IE

I know this isnt a legal advice board, but since im a step father i
figured it was the best place.
My wife and i have been married for about 8 months now. She has a
daughter(7) that lives fulltime with us. Her and her ex were never

Ok, thanks.  My name is still on the birth certificate, and he's got
my(our) last name.  I guess once he gets bored with him and stops
using the visitation, then I'll have something to go on.  We(my
lawyer, therapist) still think his intentions aren't just the child.