Family Forum / Parenting / Step Parents / September 2004

Hey folks,
I know many of you are step parents, and just wanted to vent and maybe
see what your thoughts are.  I'm an adult man (30) who grew up in what
many would view to be a fairly abusive environment.  I've experienced

My husbands 20 yo son has moved in with us,
after being kicked out of his moms house.
Initially, I thought it would be OK, my expectations were that he would get
a job, want to have his own place asap.  (based on how I was at 20)...Not

been lurking for a while as I am a step father of 2 wonderful kids who get
the raw end of this whole split/ divorce situation thing. Our kids,
daughter 13 and son 14 are torn between families. Their BF and SM are very
damning towards my wife and are constanly having to listen to ...

As I waited impatiently for my two teenage children to be dropped off by
their Dad, it occured to me, he hasn't changed, I have.
Their first "formal" visitation was a bust. Two and 1/2 hours late for
pickup on Saturday and going on 12 hours plus late for dropoff on Monday.

I have known my SD since she was 6 months old, my husband and I got married
when she was 2, and she came to live with us shortly after.  Her BM has
never taken very good care of her in terms of keeping her clean, putting
clean clothes on her, etc.  Before coming to live with us, she ...

I have been with my S/O for 3 years and at first she loved my little girl
but she is now pregnant and cant stand my daughter she wants nothing to do
with her any time i mention speending money on my daughter she gets upset
and im talking stuff like new shoes or gas money to take my ...

(Google is not behaving quite right again so I hope this shows up
in the right thread)
Deb R. wrote:

My step son is 9.  We currently do not have primary custody of him.  His
mother allows him to play video games, watch TV, and eat whatever he
wants.  She has always denied this, but the kids admit to it.  My son is
obese, and because we only have the kids for a few days a month, ...

Lurker, delurking for a moment. :-)
This may sound like a dumb question, but what i'm wondering is how many
generations is the title "step" applied?  Not sure how to make this make
sense, but my grandmother was the only "grandma" i knew, even though she

This is my dilema, I am remarried and have a 3 year old from my previous
marriage and a 1 year old with my current husband.  We are also expecting
a new baby.  He has 2 sons 6 & 8 from a previous marriage that come to our
home every other weekend.