Family Forum / Parenting / Step Parents / November 2004

I have a question. I am a 37yo stepfather of two sons 22 & 16. The older
son has his own family, works and lives on his own. The younger brother
has moved in with his older brother several months ago.
When I met their mother, she was grieving over a past divorce. It seemed

Quick summary of Our Story So Far: DH and BM separated in 2000.  DH and I
started dating in 2000, and married in 2002 (divorce was final in 2001).
SS22 gets along great with his dad, and he and I have a tentative but friendly
relationship.  SD18 was much more open with her anger, ...

Any childless by choice converts out there? We could use some help.
My boyfriend and I are in our early thirties. We have been dating for
a little over 3 years and have known each other for about 4 years. He
is childless by choice. I had an unplanned pregnancy a little over a

My stepson is a pretty nice and funny person but since his 12th
birthday i have noticed that he will try getting peeks of me when in
wide or short clothing and sometimes he will take advantage of cetain
situations and brush by me or wet my shirt ,i know its normal for a

Where is everyone lately?  It seems to be pretty hard to keep a thread
going lately, and a lot of the regulars are missing in action. Did
everyone go off and form a new group or something?  It's been too
quiet around here, and it's downright unsettling...

My stepson is angry at us but he dosent know why! ..at least thats what he
told us last night during a temper tantrum.
I will sum the background up quickly:
I'm 33, my wife is 43, her son was 10 when we met and is 14 (but he thinks

I have been married for a little over a year to a man with three daughters.
They live in Indiana with their mother and stepfather. I have followed my
new husband overseas due to the fact that he is a career military man. I
have two daughters of my own. There are times when he is ...

And the silence is deafening anyways.
So...
My father's started pushing to get us to come meet his GF's entire family.
And I do mean entire family-he really, really wanted us to make a two hour

this is it: i live with my boyfriend and his 2 sons (11 and 14).
i seem to be the a.shole for requesting the lights and tv get shut off
when you leave the room/the house.
they never clean their room, nor are they made to.

I thought I'd throw this out there, if anyone was interested.  Some of the
stories and pictures on here are so moving.
www.anysoldier.com
Some of them don't have any family or anyone to write to, receive packages

Just making a big sigh, here.
So DH is out of town, and SS gave me the big beg to come to his soccer game
anyway.  Things are baaadd between them (DH-BM) right now.  End of the
season party is after the game, as usual, we aren't invited.   No good

Since 5 years she left with her new family to make money, she says her
children comes first but her first one from her first mariage decide
at 10 to come leave with his father and me.  now he is 12 yrs and
start to have friends influence . I do not feel competent, I have no

What are your election thoughts?  I'll admit that I'm depressed.
Heather

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Here in Indiana, I have personally dealt with three cases where the
County Prosecutor's Child Support Division has dug up old child support
cases.  In all three cases,  the children are now over 25 years
old....and the parents owing the child support are over 45.  In one